The ‘Time to sort it’ blog is moving

Greetings to you all and hoping that you have realised that it’s always a good idea to make the time to sort, whatever your current ‘IT’ is!

This is a very short note just to let you know that I have now moved my blog.  Here is the link to it’s new home

http://timetosortit.com/blog/

If you would like to continue to follow it via email, then pop over to the new site and enter your email address to subscribe.

The next instalment will highlight the ‘whole life approach’ to managing your weight.

See you on the other side!

Anna x

My blog will be moving…….

It’s been a while since I’ve written Mr Blog and I have missed my time with you and with my followers.

I have had a very interesting and enlightening time on my current weight loss journey and will share more of that at a later date.  In the meantime I wanted to let every one know that this blog will be moving to another place shortly, so watch this space to learn where and when this will happen.

I also want to share this question with you and would love to know your views:

For those of you with a current weight issue……..what do you believe comes first- being overweight or lack of self worth?

Is it the fact that you are unhappy with your size that creates a lack of self worth?

Or is it that you don’t consider yourself worthy that creates the weight problem?

And which should you focus on first?

Please post your opinion in the comments below- I can’t wait to hear what you think.

Results of Experiment ‘No longer weighing in weekly’

Ok so it’s taken me a while to build up the courage to admit to this- when I finally did weigh in 6 weeks after starting the experiment…….. I had put on 2 lbs.  Please don’t stop reading though, because I still think not weighing in weekly is the general way for me to go, all I need are a few added extras, and I’ll share what these are later!  Firstly let me run through the benefits of not weighing myself-

THE PROS

  • Less stress! It felt amazing not to go through the weekly emotional trauma which occurs each time I stand on the scales; the internal dialogue along the lines of ‘I could have done better’, ‘I could have tried harder’, ‘I should have lost more’, ‘What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I even do this simple thing’ etc.  As a result I felt much calmer and much happier.
  • More focus on behaviour. I really did focus much more consistently on the behaviours that will enable me to lose weight. Somehow, by not filling up my head space with worrying about the number on the scales, I had more time to really understand where my issues lie. I know now without any doubt that the ONE thing that STOPS me being consistently successful, is my evening grazing habit.  If I can fix that one, I’m pretty sure I’ll be mostly sorted.
  • No more emotional roller coaster. When I weigh in, whether it’s a gain, a stay the same or a loss, I feel (often far too intensely) some emotion-if not joy, then despair, sadness, disappointment and the emotion inevitably affects my motivation to continue to stick with my helpful behaviour changes.  Even a joyful weigh in experience can affect how I then behave- I might relax a bit and have the odd treat.  By limiting weighing in, I allow myself to get off the weekly emotional roller coaster that impacts on my behaviours.

SO WHY DID I GAIN?

I think the problem was that I had no clear plan of when I would be weighing in- in my head I had vaguely considered weighing in monthly; but after 4 whole weeks of not weighing, it became REALLY SCARY to face the scales.  Anyway the long and the short of it was, week 5 and 6 included a few social engagements, and also I lost my focus a bit (in the evenings again!).  The result was that I undid all the good I had done in the first 4 weeks.

MY LIGHT BULB MOMENT

My clients are seeing great success with their weight loss and yet they have also come to the conclusion that weighing in weekly impacts their motivation negatively.  How come they are doing well and I’m not?  The difference is…..wait for it…..they have a coach- ME!   (And I don’t!)

They get the focus of their weekly or fortnightly sessions with me.  Also they have a plan!  During the sessions they are able to talk in detail about what will work for them and when the best times for them to weigh in will be.

So guess what?  I finally decided that I could no longer afford NOT to invest (both money and time) in getting myself my very own coach to focus specifically on my weight loss!  In our first session I set about constructing my plan for measuring my progress fortnightly- I committed to weighing in once a month and I also committed to measuring my waist once a month. It feels wonderful to finally get the 1-2-1 attention and the accountability I have been secretly craving, and to have the opportunity to think in more detail about what stops me from being successful now, when I have been so successful in the past. I’ll keep you updated as to how it all works out.

It’s all about learning as we go along, right?  What have you learnt about yourself on your weight loss journeys so far?  Please tell me in the comments below

P.S.  For those of you who live in Berkshire, UK, and need some added focus in their lives, pop over to my facebook page Anna Jones-Time to sort it, for info on my new Coffee and Coaching group sessions which are happening in a couple of weeks’ time.

The 3 Important Lessons of Dry January

Not a drop of alcohol passed my lips from 30th December 2014 to 1st February 2015 and I feel proud. To be honest, I have to admit it all happened by accident-at least to start with.  I had a migraine on the 30th of December which lasted into New Year’s Eve and the last thing I felt like doing was partaking of my usual glass of wine let alone the Prosecco I’d kept back specifically to celebrate the New Year.  And then unfortunately, on the first Saturday of the month I didn’t feel 100 % either (I DO like a tipple on a Saturday night!!) and again didn’t fancy a drink.  At this point having come so far (6 days to be accurate!)  my stubborn streak kicked in- and I decided to test myself and see if I could survive the whole of January without a bevvy.

Here are the 3 very important things I learned from my abstinence-

  1. Testing myself was good for my confidence.

I was surprised at how much better I felt about myself as a result of this new found sense of control.  At the risk of sounding like an alcoholic (and truly I am not!!) abstaining from my beloved wine was the very last thing I imagined I could do.

‘Why should I give up everything I enjoy?’, ‘Life’s too short,’ and ‘It’s my main way of relaxing and de stressing’ was what I’d say to myself to justify my habit.  I guess partly these justifications were camouflaging the fact that I was scared that if I made a commitment not to drink for a month, I might not be able to do it, and I would therefore feel a failure.  Actually now I have achieved the improbable, I feel like I can achieve many other improbable things too…..so there you have it- the happy outcome is that I definitely feel more confident.

  1. Abstinence does not necessarily equal deprivation

I believe that in the past I may have been guilty of telling myself that feeling deprived is not good for me.  That somehow if I don’t have what I want on a regular basis-let’s stick with the alcohol theme here as an example-so if I don’t have a little tipple on a Friday and Saturday then I might feel so deprived, that at the next opportunity (maybe even on the Sunday) I’d go mad and totally overindulge.  When I tried to lose weight in my teens-that’s sort of what happened.  I’d decide that in order to lose weight I’d never eat chocolate again. I’d manage 5 days and then give up, have a whole bar of Galaxy, feel a failure and then have some Maltesers as well. (My parents both worked for Mars)

I now realise that there is a difference between telling yourself you can NEVER have something ever again, and deciding that you are going to abstain for a short period of time, like a month.  The difference with short term abstinence is that the end is always in sight-it’s not a forever thing and therefore isn’t as scary.  And anyway now, because I’m feeling smug that I’ve managed to do it, I realise that my cravings have lessened ( yes really!) and I even appreciate my glass of wine more. All positive don’t you agree?

  1. It was easier than I thought

Yes I know that having a horrible migraine gave me a head start and helped me on my way, but hey I still did it-and not only that, I am still in one piece and here to tell the tale! Who’d have thought it? The cravings were nowhere near as bad as I thought they would be and I learnt to substitute what wine was giving me i.e. relaxation and stress relief, with other things that gave me the same i.e. a cup of tea, a sit down and Headspace the meditation app (don’t knock it until you’ve tried it!).  The other thing that made it easier was breaking up the challenge into smaller goals; by taking each Friday and Saturday night as it came and asking myself ‘What do you want to do tonight-have a vino or stick to your commitment?’, the decision I made was only for one night at a time.  Breaking the journey into smaller steps made the biggest difference to my success-it put less pressure on me.

So there we have it- who knew I could learn so much in a month simply (?!?) by abstaining from alcohol.  I might abstain from chocolate sometime soon just to test myself again……fancy joining me in a bit of abstinence?

Have you given something up for a while and learnt from it?  Or, if you were to test yourself for a month, what would you benefit from giving up? Please leave me a comment below.

To weigh or not to weigh?

Come on, don’t most of us deep down, know what we need to do to lose weight?

We may not have university degrees in nutrition, and it can be confusing to know what we should and shouldn’t be eating with all the conflicting information out there, but deep down I believe that most of us know when we should be eating a little less and moving a little more; really we do, don’t we?

So why is it so easy for some of us (even when we have seen success and lost a couple of stones) to get stuck?  I believe it all comes down to ‘motivation’.  Motivation is the key.  Staying motivated forever and ever is hard work at the best of times, but when a set of scales is involved it can become complicated!

So let me clarify this before I get thousands of comments about how wrong I am. (In my dreams!….thousands of comments…yes please! It can be lonely here you know….with just Mr Blog for company!)  I have weighed thousands of people in my time, and witnessed first-hand how motivating it is to see a positive result at the scales.  When you are doing great and on a roll and the number on the scales is going down each week-that can be incredibly motivating and is also great feedback on behaviour changes you have implemented in the previous week. (I have explored the best way to use the results at the scales before-click here if you want to go there.)

HOWEVER there is a very high chance that standing on the scales could demotivate you.  There are only 3 possible results- a loss, a gain or a stay the same. One of those results will almost certainly result in disappointment, which in turn could result in a sense of ‘what’s the point’ which equals ‘not motivated’.  Here are some other possible scenarios:

An unexpected gain could mean devastation which = de-motivation.

A stay the same after a ‘good’ week could = de-motivation

Even a loss that is not big enough could = de motivation

If you are in a fat rut (or a weight-loss plateau-you choose which you want to call it), I urge you to ask yourself this question- ‘Is standing on the scales every week beneficial in keeping me consistently motivated?’

I have asked myself the question and the answer is ‘NO! That’s not to say I will never weigh myself ever again because weighing is one of the simplest ways of getting feedback on your weight loss efforts. But I have decided that I will only weigh myself monthly, and only on a ‘slim’ day (I know you know what I mean) and on a day where I feel I can handle any result- a day when I am feeling strong and positive. This feels like a scary experiment to me and I will feed back the results honestly to you, I promise.  I guess in the end I am doing it because what I was doing before –weighing each week- was not working for me anymore.  So far not being preoccupied by the scales is working-I feel so much better about myself and I’m focussing more fully on my food habits and behaviours.  Ultimately that’s what needs to change (and stay changed). The number on the scales can end up being nothing more than a niggly distraction.

Please comment below and share your thoughts on how the scales effect your motivation-good and bad. I’m really interested to know……

One good reason NOT to make a New Year’s resolution

So it’s that time of year again (Happy New Year and all that…) and the pressure is on to make ‘resolutions’ and become all round better people.  At the time of me writing this, I wonder how many resolutions have already been broken?  And therein lies the fatal flaw of this whole concept-there is a very high chance that making a resolution to ‘do something’ will result in us eventually not doing it, and hey presto, there it is- a big sense of failure.

So that was it- the ONE very good reason NOT to make a resolution.

If we want to stay motivated to achieve better things in 2015, my proposal is as follows- get rid of the RE and just focus on the SOLUTION. (Get it?)

The  one very  useful thing about the New Year is that it makes it easy for us to focus on a fresh start, on drawing a line in the sand and (just one more cliché now…..bear with me) turning over a new leaf. This in turn encourages us to think of all the positives changes we want to have happen in the future.

So here is my solution- instead of focussing on all the things we need to be doing, or need not to be doing, we should be focussing on our goals and aims and using those as the starting point.

Let me use this example to explain what I mean.  Last year I said to myself: ‘I’m going to stop drinking wine and I’m going to start running; I’m fed up of being the size I am so I’m going to make these changes and that will sort me out.’  By day 2 I’d had a glass of wine which of course meant that I was ‘rubbish’ and ‘useless’, and all I gained was a sense of hopelessness. I sulked a bit and then put the concept of New Year resolutions to the back of my mind. (It’s now 2015 and the most action my trainers have seen, is a brisk walk!)

This year instead of resolving to do this, that and the other, I have decided to identify my aims for 2015. One of those aims is to lose 18lbs so that I can feel totally comfortable and confident in a size 14 pair of jeans (they’ll be pretty loose if I lose 18lbs-bliss!). I am trying to visualise how amazing I’ll feel when I jump out of bed one morning and slip on those jeans. (Oh yes…..I’m visualising it now….ooh love it………….can’t wait to feel that way!)  The important thing is to be really specific and clear about what your goals for 2015 are; it then becomes easier to identify the actions you need to take to get there.

Do you see the difference?  Identifying my aim will of course mean that I’ll have to make some behaviour changes, but I can think about those each week and adapt them, and of course  I’ll learn as I go along.  If I do accidentally have an unplanned glass of wine at the weekend it doesn’t mean that I have failed to achieve my overall aim. So I therefore won’t be demotivated like I was last year.

Research shows that if we have a clear idea of what we are aiming for then we are 3 times more likely to achieve it.  So come on……what is your AIM for 2015?

Please share in the comments so that I can encourage you, by following up on your goals later on in the year.

Spying on the naturally slim…………………

As well as starting up my Coaching practice, I also work at my local library and I love it. I get paid to touch books and talk to people (and try my very best not to confuse the two!)  Maybe I should have started working there years ago, as the majority of the other women who also work there are beautifully and enviably ‘naturally’ slim.  Their slimness is fascinating to me, more so because the coffee table in the staffroom is cluttered with biscuits and cakes and chocolates, and also empty boxes that used to contain the afore mentioned items.

I have taken to observing their tea break and lunchtime habits in a David Attenborough type way.

Imagine Mr Attenborough’s hushed tone’s uttering the following question-‘How is it that these lovely library ladies can chomp on these treats and not gain weight?’

So I sit quietly and watch and listen for clues……

Deb is eating soup and fruit for lunch.

When Lesley asks her if that’s all she’s having-she replies it’s what she usually has for lunch.  She is careful at lunch time because she likes to eat more in the evening and at weekends. The other thing I observe is that Deb always cuts her fruit up and eats much more slowly than I do-she eats mindfully (Remember?  I talked about that before- here.)

After finishing her usual very healthy lunch of pitta, cottage cheese and sliced pear (it’s what she likes) Lesley contemplates having a mince pie.  She ponders a while and then decides against it. There’s no angst, no turmoil, just a considered and informed decision that it’s high in saturated fat and she’ll be having a different treat later on. Besides she’s not really hungry. (David Attenborough voice again- ‘Species Library Lady has evolved over the years to understand when she has had enough food! Remarkable…’)

That’s not to say that if my colleagues fancy a biscuit or two or a mince pie that they don’t have one- they simply (!) pause and think first and then totally enjoy (The mince pie box was empty anyway as was the three quarters empty box of Ferrero Rocher- let’s just say everyone except me seemed to know they tasted good-how does that work?)

Although I haven’t yet managed to infiltrate their home environments and spy on them when they are on their own in their kitchens at night, I am pretty sure that my colleagues behave in the same way in private as they do in public. No declining chocolates in public and then scoffing them when no one’s looking.  They’ve been practicing this behaviour all their lives; David Attenborough might comment that their sensible eating habits have now become second nature.

I find it so interesting that people who struggle to manage their weight, think that slim people are ‘naturally’ slim and can eat whatever they want and still stay slim.  Some slim people believe the same. I believe that in reality slim people do generally eat what they want, but (and this is the significant bit) they simply don’t WANT the same foods or the same VOLUME of food that many overweight people ‘want’.  The library ladies are a great example of how the slim stay slim-they put some thought into maintaining their healthy weights; their good habits help too.

So now I have a great opportunity to keep watching, and to attempt to copy those slim eating habits until they become second nature (normal?) to me too. I know it won’t be easy as I have spent the last er-hmm years practising my own unique bad habits (I do have some good ones too-just saying!).  This week I’ll keep practising mindful eating (I’m getting better at this and I enjoy food much more when I am mindful) and I will make a huge attempt to pause before I snack.  Pausing will enable me to ask myself-‘do I really need to eat this?’, and I’m hoping sometimes the answer will be ‘No!’

What have you noticed about how slim people behave around food and what could you copy that could lead to better weight management skills for you? 

Please leave your comments below-I’m curious to know your thoughts.  And if you decide to share this ……well I’m not sure how I feel about the ‘naturally slim’ reading it (giggles nervously) – it might encourage them to start watching us more closely!

I have killed my number ONE excuse…………now what??

I have been quiet for a few weeks and here is my excuse…………there has been a major change to my life! Just over a week ago I delivered my last ever Weight Watchers meeting; I have left the job that I have done for the last 12 and a bit years and briefly, it has left me bewildered.  I still don’t know how I feel…….relieved, sad, excited, bereft, free, alone, grateful, empty, proud……hungry? (By the way ‘hungry’ was a joke J and emotional eating is a subject for another blog post.)  Seriously though I’ve had so many emotions and also new routines to work through, bewildered is a good way to describe how I have felt over the last few days.

Another bewildering realisation is, that just like that, (abracadabra), I have removed, what over the last few years, has become my number one weight loss barrier.  Let’s see if I can explain this in a way that makes sense to me, to my readers, (and of course to you Mr Blog):

There is an assumption,  that working in the weight loss industry is all the motivation one could possibly need to stay at a healthy weight.  I know I am not alone and that many of my ex-colleagues will agree, it’s not quite that simple.  That’s not to say that everyone who works in the weight loss industry struggles-of course that’s not true and many admirable people lose weight and keep it off forever. There are however, challenges that present themselves specifically to people who spend many, many hours in the week thinking and talking endlessly about losing weight, eating less and being slim!  Over the last few years I have felt as though I have pretty much become ‘immune’ to it all.  It has ended up being a subject that I know lots and lots about, but I appear to have forgotten that what I talk about can be applied to me too! Someone along the way must have given me a sneaky booster jab, which has made me resistant to weight loss!

The other side effect of trying to help others to lose weight, is that the focus is on THEM and not on me.  I’m not saying this in a ‘woe is me’ kind of way.  I have found it incredibly pleasurable and rewarding to see others change their lives for the better. It was and still is my job, after all………..but come on……..who wants to take work home with them every day of the week? We all need a break right? I was recently coached myself, and one of the most interesting things that came out from the session for me, was that I may have been deflecting the desire to be a healthy weight onto others! (Bing! Switch that light bulb on!)

Here is one more ‘reason’ it is challenging to lose weight when trying to help others do just that- some members find it reassuring/comforting that their leader is not a ‘stick insect’ (who remembers that television programme?).  Many members have told me that they like the fact that I totally understand how challenging it is to lose weight. And who am I then, to take that comfort away from them?

As I write this down now (why didn’t I do it years ago??) I realise what a big, giant excuse I have woven for myself.  What an enormous barrier to overcome!  And now it’s GONE! And I have 2 choices………..I can dip into my big bag of excuses and come up with a different one……………OR I can ditch the excuses and look for a way to achieve my weight loss goals.

What is your BIG EXCUSE? And what needs to happen for you to get over it?

Please comment below-I’d love to know how ingenious (or not!) you all are.  And if you know anyone else who may have their own weight loss excuses please share this blog with them.

Practicing ‘Mindful’ Eating

I have had an incredibly eventful four days. Day 1 and 2 were away from home days: I met new people, learnt lots and had a thoroughly exciting and adrenalin filled time. On day 3 I made a couple of very important life decisions and acted on them-gulp!  Day 4 was a traumatic, scary and emotional day involving my pet dog-enough said.  Today I feel drained physically, emotionally and mentally, but other than that, everything is fine. (Thank goodness for the natural resilience of our canine friends)

It certainly has been a busy few days. And I wonder Mr Blog, if you can guess where weight loss scored in my list of priorities?  Well as a matter of fact, it was still right up there in terms of being very important to me- the problem was, for a few days I simply forgot how important! Oops!

‘Oh no!’ (I can almost hear the collective ghostly voice of millions of fellow ‘dieters’, echoing from their own kitchen areas, all over the western world and the echo is aimed at me!)

‘She’s lost the plot again! It’s more than likely that she has overeaten, and now she must be feeling awful. It’s so hard to stay on track.  I wouldn’t be surprised if she feels so guilty about it, that she gives up altogether for a bit and has a good old binge. That’s what we do isn’t it? When life gets busy and we lose control for a bit, we figure that we might as well carry on and ‘ruin’ the whole week.  And actually’ (the ghostly echo persists) it’s only a few weeks until Christmas. I wouldn’t blame her if she stopped focussing on her weight loss from now until January-at least she could relax and enjoy the festive period without worrying. She could have a fresh start in January…’

Well let me tell you Ghostly Echo……you are WRONG!

Well you are right about some of it- I haven’t been eating perhaps as healthily as I would normally have done; and I have had a couple of pieces of cake and maybe a little tipple or two. But I am currently practicing changing the way I think, and I no longer accept that just because I have had a couple of pieces of cake that I have ‘ruined’ anything at all (because I haven’t-goodness, all I did was eat a piece of cake! People do it all over the world all of the time and it has no influence on anything that really matters-eating cake does not impact on world peace, finding cures for cancer or anything else that REALLY matters) So if I DID NOT RUIN anything, then I have no need to feel GUILTY (this is the word/feeling that does the MOST damage in our healthy eating crusade).  I think this is a really important sentence (maybe even a breakthrough?) so I am going to repeat it so that it is easier to imprint it onto my brain-

Eating cake DOES NOT equal RUINING something; and if nothing is RUINED by my eating cake, then I don’t have to feel GUILTY! If I don’t feel GUILTY then I don’t need to overeat for the rest of the week (to push down the feeling of guilt, to punish myself or for any other reason)

And in conjunction with understanding the above, I am also practicing eating ‘mindfully’-for me that means if I am going to eat cake, I am also going to ensure that I do it in a conscious state-I am going to focus on the taste and texture. I am going to enjoy it and take time over it. I know people do this all the time (especially slim people) and when I do it, it’s good fun. I really enjoyed the piece of carrot cake I had while I was away at the weekend (and the lemon poppy seed one too). I enjoyed it so much SO much more than if I had greedily, mindlessly and guiltily wolfed it down by the light of the fridge. And at the same time I made a conscious (mindful) decision not to feel guilty.

Mindful eating is definitely the way to go. I used to do it as a child. In those days I could make a 2 fingered Kit Kat last for ages, by nibbling the chocolate from the outside of the wafer in an ordered way. I’d then eat the wafer layer by layer, so that the eating of the Kit Kat was not just a snack, it was an event. I also used to eat my meals much more consciously (no TV dinners or reading at the table in those days). I enjoyed my meals and did not feel guilty if I had an extra roast potato. Yes I need to keep practicing my habits of old habits……….

I don’t believe that eating more mindfully and less guiltily is the whole answer to the weight loss question, but if you are looking for a starting point it might be worth a practice. There is some research that suggests when we focus fully on our eating experiences without any distraction, that we eat 20 percent less…….worth keeping in mind huh?

OOPS-I’ve had a binge!

Picture the scene….(excuse the clichéd beginning, but I’ve always wanted to start a piece of writing with this little phrase)-so…..
Picture the scene: I have had a very focussed and controlled food week. I have added to the little reminders I’d set up on my phone, by downloading a little free app called Diet Coach (it’s very cute)-and I am being reminded daily that my body deserves good healthy nutrition, that I should drink more water and less coffee, that I shouldn’t ruin a good day by eating too many sweeties and crisps in the evening, and I am even being advised to look at my motivational pictures at a set time each day (I’ll talk more about those pictures another time).
So all in all my ‘reminder’ tactic is working fabulously. I am starting to believe that I can actually do this. I even have evidence that I CAN do it- 2 and half lbs down since last weigh in. I’ve caught myself at odd moments walking with my head held a little higher because I am a woman on track to weight loss heaven. I believe that nothing can stop me now that ‘my head is in the right place’ and so are my healthy breakfasts, lunches and…….
Ah but hang on a moment. Last Friday afternoon turned out to be an irritating one. I had been summonsed to attend a family gathering which I did not want to attend. I won’t go into details because apparently blogs as well as walls, have ears, and I don’t want to have to cope with the irritation of another family altercation any time soon (one had already occurred when I originally tried to wriggle my way out of said family gathering). So I headed off to do my duty, and in order to reduce my resentment at having to waste a couple of my precious ‘catch up with some of the stuff on my to-do list’ hours, I decided that I could sort my daughter’s prescription out en route as the Pharmacy was on the way. Now who could have guessed what a big mistake that was?
The saga of the prescription had started 10 days previously with me traipsing around to 4 different chemists only to discover that this particular medication was not available-I needed to get the doctor to write an alternative prescription apparently. So on the way to my Mother’s (I didn’t mean to mention it was Mother’s house that I’d been summonsed to-oh well it’s done now!) I ‘popped ‘ into the doctors to see if the new prescription was ready. I queued almost patiently for 15 minutes, then waited another 5 minutes while the receptionist disappeared around the back and was eventually told that the prescription (and presumably me and my daughter) did not exist. ‘
Not a problem’ I said-‘Could I come back later, on my way back from a family event that I didn’t want to go to?’ I said.
‘Yes that’s fine’ the receptionist said, ‘Come back at 5.30pm and we’ll have it ready for you’ . ‘Great’ I said, and headed off bravely to dreaded family gathering (which incidentally I managed to survive).
So back to the Doctor’s surgery I went. I queued a little less patiently this time (and now we are getting to it……the defrosting salmon and roasted vegetables would take at least 45 minutes to prepare and if I didn’t get home soon they just would NOT happen). I waited in the queue for 20 minutes. A different receptionist this time disappeared behind the scenes for another 8 minutes. She sent someone else out to break the news that there was STILL no prescription. Look I’m going to cut this short and let you imagine the steam coming out of my ears, the deep breathing exercises and the scrolling through Facebook that occurred for the next 40 minutes!!!! (Can you believe it??40 minutes plus 8 plus 20 plus 5 plus 15 equals 78 minutes altogether and all on the same afternoon as dreaded family gathering!!)
Anyway the outcome was that the salmon was definitely no longer on the menu and the Doctor’s surgery happened to be across the Road from a Pizza Hut takeaway. After 2 large glasses of wine and 3 large slices (or was it 4?) of pizza the rest of the evening is a blur. I think some chocolate biscuits came to the party and some peanuts and I really can’t remember what else. But do you know what? It doesn’t really matter. Because sometimes that’s just how life is-sometimes we do eat a bit too much pizza and sometimes things just don’t go according to plan and sometimes life is stressful. And yes I know Pizza can’t possibly fix life’s stresses but sometimes in the moment we forget that, right? As I say it doesn’t really matter.
While I was waiting in the doctor’s waiting room (the 40 minute wait) a youngish woman came out visibly shaken and upset. I think the reason I had to wait so long was that her session with the GP had overrun substantially-but seeing the state she was in made me realise that although I’d had a stressful day, things can always be much worse. And OK so I had lost control briefly of my eating-but tomorrow is always opportunity for a fresh start. In the old days if I’d had a binge I would have carried on bingeing until Monday. Nowadays I just start the next day with a clean slate and have a bowl of porridge. I believe this is one of the most important weight loss behaviours that we can practice. What do YOU think?